I didn't even realize what i was doing was considered AVRT or secular....I just quit drinking?
my first motive was to step up to the plate to care for our very sick mother...she died last year and i was sober for the funeral (i use May 5, 2011 as my start date, cos it was her funeral and my nephew's birthday).
i always like to play fair, and my brother was carrying all the burdens...it was a crappy way to treat him while i cried about my problems.... in retrospect, i have spent the last year doing my part and not complaining and also taking on more responsibilities...(we are selling jointly owned property). I can't think clearly and make responsible decisions if i'm not sober....people are counting on me.
the more I did the right thing (taking responsibility and helping the family), the better I felt and drinking just "wasn't an option" (thanks Amy)!
I come here everyday to connect with people, i am also part of the gratitude section.