I am so sorry to hear about all this. But I can say I am glad you found out now, and didnt get married or have any children together. The damage really is just your emtions..
I can only speak for him or the alcoholic addict part.. I would say leave me, move on. You are to young for this and dont deserve it. I am not ready to get clean if I am still using and lying. It will only get worse if you stay and enable me to do so.. Also you really never knew me, just the person I wanted you to see, until my addiction keep progressing and I stole from everyone.
So pray for me for I am sick with a disease , know that I truly didnt mean to do these things in my heart. But you must save yourself and go free and you will move on and find someone else that will love and cherish you..
I (me now) was the alcoholic addict, and nothing I mean nothing was going to get me better until I wanted to give it a honest try for me.
I wish you the best , the best thing you can do is live for you ... :ghug3