Welcome, and I have to say, that is really awful to have to deal with.
Yes, we all caused problems for our loved ones. Marriages are strained. However, at some point, you need to decide whether it's worth it to keep working at it. Personally, I would not have allowed myself to listen to things like that, nine months after I was in recovery. I certainly understand that forgiveness can come gradually over time, but that doesn't give your wife the right to verbally abuse you at this point.