mytime, I'm not yet sober more than a couple of days but I think I can speak to this because I can relate it to my own relationship. I said and did horrible things to my wife and family while drunk that most would consider unforgiveable. I understand her frustration and her skeptical view of my attempt at recovery. She will also pick fights with me and bring up stuff from years ago.
If it's worth it, you'll stick with it. If you've caused harm that she can't get over regardless of professional help, that may be something you have to own. Why don't you have a blunt assessment of this in one of your therapy sessions?