I'm sorry to hear about your high blood pressure and that your AH isn't concerned. As someone once wrote on SR: "I could stand on my head and spit nickels and my AH wouldn't notice me!" I've always loved that line, because it painted a pretty accurate picture of my AH before I left.
I can also sympathize with the porn--ugh. When my AH was at detox/rehab I had to run our small business (which he usually ran out of an office in town). I went to use his office computer and it was loaded with porn. It blindsided me and grossed me out (I didn't even have to look at the videos--just the names gave me the creeps). I've mentioned it to two different therapists and they always say something vague like well, porn is complicated... Well, not to me! It's demeaning, and I would be so upset if my children were ever to be exposed to that (they are quite young).
I'm sorry you have to deal with that too. I write this at the risk of sounding trivial, but I keep thinking how totally unsexy alcoholism is. If I just ran everything through a filter of: is what my AH is doing right now sexy or not, I probably would have left far sooner (and that would've been good thing, imo)!
But seriously, I tend to internalize stress and it affects me physically if I don't take time for myself. So even though it gets repeated often here on SR, do take care of yourself, keep making YOU your #1 priority!