His disease is progressive, his abuse is progressive. Left untreated they will both get worse.
Meetings were a life saver for me, I would suggest that reconsider attending them.
Your hoping that he will stop drinking will not do a thing for either of you, he needs to want recovery and do what it takes to get sober and work a strong program....for life.
I am sorry that you are in pain, however, you too, have choices.