I misunderstood what the bible teaches for a long time too. I thought I had to stay with my AH because God hates divorce, and I was to turn the other cheek, forgive seventy times seven times….. And there is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for another.
But I was laying down my life to help my AH live an ungodly lifestyle. By staying with my AH while he was in active addiction, I was enabling him. I was helping him to live in sin, and that is NOT God’s will, and NOT what the bible teaches.