I know it's not easy to negotiate family get-togethers, but if they revolve around alcohol, maybe you can make yourself scarce? I was very fragile for many months and for sure coulde not be around alcohol. At that time, I decided to not buy alcohol as a gift anymore either. It just made sense. I found a great gourmet chocolate store and that's been my go-to hostess gift for a long time. I hope you find a way to make things work with your family members who drink.