Originally Posted by
iseult 
For him though there's also the fact this will all be kept from the rest of his family and his friends, he doesn't think his parents will come around and he also has to deal with the pain, fear, and doubt I've instilled in him.
So you want a marriage based on deception, one where he has to hide from his friends and family the realities of his life? You acknowledge that you've instilled pain, fear, and doubt in his life, but want him to handle it all alone and hide it from the people who care most for him because it serves your interests?
This is a TERRIBLE way to start and base a marriage on. Now not only are you going to be deceptive, you want him to be as well?
How is this good?