Originally Posted by zanzibar

Hi Messo, I understand how you're feeling. When I started drinking my wife started drinking shortly after.

I managed to get myself sober but she continued to spiral until she died of liver failure in 2007. For years I couldn't live with the guilt that I was somehow responsible for her death in that I believed she started because I started.

I've since learned that it was her decision and she was responsible for her own actions not me. It was however a long hard road to accept this.

Listen to me and the others when they tell you that you had no hand in this. I believe it would have happened with or without you.

As Dee implied none of us are this powerfull.