I think we can have thoughts/ voices that bring unhealthy, unhappy emotions into our consciousness outside of those connected to addiction. You took your wife's comments personally, made the assumption she did not trust you not to drink if around drinkers, and you let those thoughts pierce your inner peace. You need to do your best to get past this quickly, recognize its insignificance, because nursing hurt, anger and letting small things morph into big insults is not a good way to live peacefully within yourself.