There"s a lot of wisdom on this site. I know how difficult it is and how hard it is to accept. I"m trying to get to the d phrase after 36 years. There comes a point in time when we know we deserve better and that the crumbs are not enough. I'm so glad that I am reminded that I cannot fix it. For me it will be easier to not have to watch this anymore. Think of the peace ( and yes for awhile loneliness) ...I 'm looking forward to the peace.