Originally Posted by
Jerytoms Hello Everyone
I am not new to the board but have not been here in quite some time. My current boyfriend is struggling with an addiction to pain pills. Over the course of the past year and our relationship his addiction has had its course of ups and downs which obviously has effected our relationship. His drug use has been an issue and has increasingly gotten worse. He has always thought that he had his drug use under control he would never really admit to having a problem or wanting and needing help. If and when I would get mad at him and tell him it's becoming too much of an issue for me he would unwillingly say he wanted to get help and change but I was always given empty promises.
Last night he probably had one of the first and most hones conversations with me he ever has regarding his drug use. He lead the conversation which was a first also. He said that he knows he has a problem that he wants help. He said he can't control his addiction anymore and realizes his life has become unmanageable and he will not be able to continue this way or move forward and have the things he wants if he continues to use and abuse. He also has a plan he wants to get on a suboxone program and do things right. He also wants to talk to a one on one counselor regarding his addiction. I have told him throughout our whole relationship and again last night that I will be here to support an help him in any way possible as long as he seeks out help and moves forward. He seemed shocked that I was so understanding and willing to be there for him. He couldn't stop thanking me and telling me how much it means to him that I am being supportive and understanding and that he loves me so much.
I know it's going to be a long challenging road and well encounter more obstacles but I feel really good about the converstion and where things are headed if he follows through. I guess I am just sharing my experience and seeing if anyone has insight or feedback. Is this a good step? Are we moving in the right direction ? Thanks for your time!
It's great that he's admitted he wants help n that you are there for him.
Please don't forget to get help for you also - maybe go to al anom n read up on addiction.
It's really pleasing to see people there for one another through tough times n i wish you both all the best xxxx