Have you looked into attending Al-Anon meetings? This forum is a great resource for sharing experiences and finding inspiration and courage, but you might also benefit from face to face meetings as well, and a more organized approach towards your own recovery. Anything you can try to put the focus on you and your well-being would be a great step.
I am the adult child of an alcoholic and I wish more than anything my father had put his needs and the needs of his kids before my alcoholic mother's. Even if you and your husband work things out and move forward, you can never be too armed with information about how alcoholism affects the entire family!
Please keep reading and posting! Welcome to SR!