You're doing the right thing by pressing charges. we continue to want to believe and hope that the person we once chose to share our lives with is still there; so we continue on the cycle. The reality is that the man you married is trapped by his addiction and will do anything to feed and protect his addiction. It took me about 5 years to face the reality that the man I married was no longer there. I still have times that I begin to have those doubts that maybe this time he's on the right track but I know I need to be strong and not listen to a word he says. The Quacking is something I've put to use many times - if anything, when I hear his words and imaging quacking instead of listing, it buys me time because eventually his actions show me the truth. Keep yourself healthy - that's all you can do.