Originally Posted by
CentralOhioDad 
^^^^ I agree with this. ^^^^
Turning your whole life upside down trying to head off the inevitable is only going to make you crazy. Keep going - when she falls flat and gets drunk in front of your friends, then go from there. You'll end up isolating yourself from everyone else trying to protect the secret, and resent yourself and her in the process.
Thanks for the good advice.
But what about the trip that is specifically designed to be about wine. It is in January, and I have to book airline and hotels. How can we do this? Should I shift the trip to somewhere else where wine isn't the focus?