Originally Posted by
Earthworm 
Just a comment: length of sobriety doesn,t mean QUALITY sobriety. Some A,s are very emotionally damaged and have big problems with intimacy. I know I have one 35 years sober and he keeps me at arms length. Fear of closeness.
Earthworm, thank you so much for this post. One of the things I love about him is how much he will do for others - he's a high school gym teacher in an urban school district with a lot of troubled kids - he does things that make me so proud. But with me, he has a very hard time showing his emotions. Are you married to him? How long have you been together?