I'm proud of you for taking the steps to order Al-Anon books and looking at local meetings. I have had to work on my own recovery and on my co-dependence issues with my also recovering boyfriend. It helps me alot to take a step back and look at what I can change within myself to make myself a happier, healthier, and better person all around. This site is also extremely helpful, and I hope you stick around and keep posting and reading what others have to share.