Originally Posted by
Tuffgirl 
I think this ^^^ is far more important than why he broke out in hives.
How can you make him lose his job and kid? Why do you feel guilty for consequences he brought upon himself?
I'm not sure really. Like I said I know it's not my fault, I understand that thy are his consequences not mine but I can't shake the nasty guilty bad feeling. I guess no matter how much I tell myself it's HIS fault, I still feel like I am somehow responsible since I am the one making the decision to split up. It's 100% codependent, I can see this but I can't make the feeling go away.