Welcome to the SR family!
Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as often as needed. Some of our stories are in the permanent posts (called stickies) located at the top of this main forum page. I am always finding wisdom when I read in the stickies.
I think Alanon meetings are a great idea. They have helped me to be a healthier ME and a better mom. The tools I learn at Alanon also help me in work and other personal relationships.
How to help your toddler?
I believe in letting them be children as long as possible.
I keep adult issues out of their ears, minds and thoughts as much as I can.
I try to give them information, but only at a level they can understand.
A 3 year old does not know the difference between a week and a month. His understanding is that dad is around sometimes. That's all he knows. He does not have any other example to compare it too. That is good.
His normal is this: Dad is not around all the time ~ Mom is around to care for me.
When he is older, explain that Dad is sick and trying to get better.
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