BellaQ, I want to send you hugs. Your story is so sad. My husbands family has some of the same issues with his Mom and sibling problems, but nothing as bad as yours. I do find it hard to believe that when your brother is having one of his episodes that your Mom can't call the police and they take him in for psych eval. Now, I realize that your Mom may not want to do that. I do know a couple who had a schizo daughter, age 16, and they had to call the police and let the state take her because they could no longer deal with her and feared for their saftey and for their other children. She was inpatient for 9 mons and is home now. I know how it suxs when your parent ignores your children for a cody relationship. Been there, done that.