...alleviate the pain of hurt and abandonment...
IMO and from my experience only my HP and I can help me stop the pain of feeling alone and abandoned. I am ok for the most part, although not always. When I enmesh this with RAH and his issues it just becomes a big mess so I am grateful to be able to step away from that and focus on what I need to do for me.
It is hard to juggle everything we need to do for ourselves and our children. Hope you get some relief for you soon.