All I am saying is that when I went to his therapist, I had listed 137 things that were wrong with me. Wanting sex or not wanting sex, was one of them.
I remember being afraid to have sex. I would, then 2 days later he would go out and drink, and either come home late, or not at all, and it was all my fault. He told me he couldn't take it, because "I DID NOT ENJOY IT".
I used to actually jump out of bed after sex, and ask if that one counted. That's how nuts I got.
So will bow out of the rest of this conversation, because it is a trigger to me.
May make me irrational
Need to say one more thing though, sex to a man means that everything is ok, honkey dorey, no more b!tching about problem, because if you have sex with him, then he takes it as everything is OK.
Now bowing out