One Day at a Time. Count only on that.
Great you went to Al-Anon! Try different groups and make at least six meetings. It'll give you a better feel for what you need.
Feeling weird about taking care of yourself, especially when the SO is just recently sober, is normal. We're so focused on getting them well, and have been for months and years.
Yes to suggesting AA for him but, like Sueski said, "let go" of the outcome. It practically has to be 100% his will to go if AA recovery is to take hold.
Best wishes!
