OK I've got to say it.
There are two sides here, and we're hearing - one.
How is this helpful? Unless Liz is going to leave him - how is it helpful to continually trash this man based on one side of the conversation?
Yes, sex IS important in a marriage and important to a man. HELLO. The only flaw he sees in you is that he wants to more close with you sexually. And you're complaining? There is no laundry list coming from him of all your terrible flaws. Just one . . . If there were a list, we'd be complaining about that, too.
I'm not trying to be rough here, but I thought this board is here to help people grow. I don't see this conversation as helpful. I agree with Dandylion.
To all of us, they have their stuff but SO DO WE. What is yours, Liz????? I say that with kindness. Do you want to talk about your faults and flaws? If you don't have any, and all the marital problems are because of him, I sincerely suggest you leave!