Yeah, CentralOhioDad, I agree with what SparkleKitty said. The worse she feels about herself, the more she needs to deflect attention blame) on to you----even if she has to work hard to find something.
When A's are playing the "blame game" they can come across so arrogant that it is mind-blowing!!
Have you read QUACKERS? You owe this delight to yourself, if you haven't. Go to search at the top of this page and you can find it. You will laugh and cry at the same time. But,
it spells out the daily reality of what living with alcoholism is like.
Dandylion.