outtolunch

( ^ said like a true codependent)

He has and will continue to say whatever he wants-freedom of speech and all that. The more you focus on how he has no right the less time you have to focus on the only thing you control here- your own reaction.

This guy is not the hopeful fantasy of the man you thought he was. He deceived you. He has shown you who he is. Believe him. Addiction excuses none of it. And it has nothing to do with you. He's a louse.

Can you limit all future interaction with him to your attorney and the courts. Let him arrange and pay for court supervised visitation. You owe him nothing and the kids deserve a father who puts their best interests before all else. He does not sound capable of grasping this. Not your problem.