Just here to give you support in your codie recovery, trying not to scream what to do (admittedly there is a stark opinion I stated, above).
But, truly nice people CONSIDER THE OTHER PARTY in a two-party relationship. They don't always have the same values, or opinions, but they will consider and respect the other's side. This is not reflected in your original post. Your niggling doubt was correct red flags.
It is entirely healthy to re-assess a situation when significant new data that contradicts the original assessment becomes available.
Sending support - good art comes from fluidity, you won't get fluidity from being stressed all the time and going against your gut! I think you have talent and talent benefits from protection and growth.
CLMI