ShatteredHeart, I'm new, too. People here really get it, and are very kind even if painfully honest at times. In my situation, it's a husband drinking after 18 years sober.
The practical advice about money/valuables is very good. If money is an issue, you can get most of the books recommended at the library or a used bookstore. I know this is a hard and painful thing, but take care of yourself and the kids before you help him. I ache for you...