I am the alcoholic wife. I have almost a year of sobriety. The best advice I can give you is to work on yourself. Become a healthy person and you will become a better father and husband. My husband still does not talk to me. I cannot say I'm okay with that but I have accepted it. I cannot change him only myself. It took me six months of pain to realize that. But now I look at it as a gift it made me look at me. I go to AA, read a lot and don't waste my energy on figuring out what he wants. I am now there for my kids and I love that. Do I think he will forgive me absolutely not. I have seen many people in AA make their marriages work. They give their spouse time and trust me one day or one month in their world does not show them much. Your actions will speak louder than words. Give her time to sort things out and work on yourself.