Originally Posted by
anewchance 
after last saturdays ordeal I had with drinking.
my wife is barely looking at me.... saying anything nice at all..... and doesn't even want a hug.
Usually after a rough go around it may take her a day to get past it and we continue on like I never over did it.
I can understand why she is having a hard time.
I can understand why she is not willing to pretend that it is all nice.
I can understand why she does not want to look at you, or give you a hug.
I understand her fear.
The fear of living with someone who *says* he loves you, yet turns into a horrible drunken, violent, monster.
The horrible experience of watching someone you trust turn into a raging madman.
The fear of ANOTHER repeat performance is overwhelming.
Yeah, I think I understand why she feels like she is living with a complete stranger.