Not sure if you meant to post this on the A side
but since your here...........
My XAH and I had the same dance as you and your wife too
Drink, Abuse, Hurt Feelings, Cold, Kiss, and Act Like Nothing Happen
Repeat
Repeat
For almost 18 years
Then, we were both a mess!!!
Since Im a female, I will put it into the form of a shopping list
Here's my shopping list:
1.Quit drinking. STOP. Follow your 12 steps. Read it, Live it, Pray it, Believe in it!
2.Get into a recovery program and eat, sleep, live and suck it all in.
3.Seek help
4.Make changes.
5.Make amends
6.Get Honest.
7. Be True to yourself and others
8. Love Your Wife & Kid's With everything you have
9.Stop making excuses
10.Buck up and be a loving man, husband, father
11. Stop abusing your wife and children
12.Stop the poor me stuff..Boo!
13. Love yourself
14. If not AA, check into a rehab center. SAVE YOURSELF
15. Rejoice in your soul, that you have another chance to love yourself, life and your family..>SOBER!!!!!!!
Hope you do the "RIGHT" thing man!!! Your worth it and so is your family!!!