You might feel like you are rock solid, but if she is anything like me, she is waiting for the next drunken episode because that's how it's been in the past and why would it be different now. We have no control over your drinking. I don't know how many times I heard that he will stop drinking because the last event was too horrible. He always went right back.
While this may seem to be the ?!?!?answer in her eyes to get me to quit?!?!?!, it is really making me feel like our relationship is done and why should I even try.
A common thing I heard: "Don't act like that, it makes me want to drink." She is not responsible for your decisions. Maybe she is tired of sweeping it under the rug. I was, too. I, too, acted like nothing had happened and went on with the relationship. Until I couldn't anymore and was distant and cold. I didn't feel loved or safe, so I couldn't act loving and trusting.
As yourself what she has been through because of your drinking. If it were reversed, how would you feel?