Hi Tammy,
I used to feel like you at times, before my drinking escalated to the horrendous proportions it did by this summer. I thought I was just a little bit alcoholic. But I've come to believe that you can't be a little bit alcoholic any more than you can be a little bit pregnant. It's one or the other. And its progressive.
I too haven't had a DUI. But I'm ashamed to say I've driven drunk. I haven't been homeless - yet. I haven't been to jail. Yet. But I have done enough crazy things to know I can't drink again. It ALWAYS gets worse, never better.
If you have a copy of the Big Book, read the the stories in the section "They Stopped In Time". You might find it helpful.
Congratulations on your sober time.