Thank you lillamy! That's exactly how I feel.
Our situation was even wierder. We negotiated our Opting out agreement 4 months ago so we were (in my mind or so I thought I felt anyway) already divorced. All that was left was for the attorneys to write up the divorce decree and submit to the judge. About 2 months ago I knew it was done. Was told that it was submitted to the court and that I'd get a call that the judge was all set and the divorce was final or the judge wanted to talk to us.
My attorney didn't call me to tell me. I was talking to my ex about the kids when he brought it up bc his attorney had called him. The whole way I found out was just weird.
But it's over. Thank god.