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In the search box, type in "To Callie and All Other Spouses"
You will find a very informative thread from member "bval," an opioid addict. It runs several pages.
Addictive disease is a permanent condition. It is likely your husband will act out in the future. Addicts can move from drug to drug, or from drugs to addictive behaviors (gambling addiction, sex addiction).
Treatment is available to him. 12-step meetings and sponsors are available to him. He will have to come to a point of hopelessness about his life, most probably, to seek any help. As long as an addict can juggle the drug life and the home/job life, he will keep using. He is in love with it.
You say that he does not yell at you and he treats you pretty well.
But if you ever try to come between him and the drug when he is craving or when he is heading out on a run, he will turn on you and it can be very very hurtful.
Already you are starting the codependent pattern of pleading with him, crying, breaking down, and already he has started the addict pattern of cold withdrawal and lying when he feels threatened by someone who wants him to stop using. We here can tell you that for many spouses of addicts, that scene can play for years if no one seeks outside help and the addict continues using.
Can you afford to see an addictions counselor who works with family members? Because you need to not be alone with this.
We are glad you found SR. There is so much information here. Please post whenever you need support.