Originally Posted by
SoLongFarewell 
And another note I'd like to ask about...my past boyfriends before him were addicts/alcoholics/emotional issue types. I never dated these people very long (I was never in love with them, so it was easier to walk away) but as soon as the issues starting arising with my current ABF, I was wondering if I just had poor selection in my choice of men over the past few years.
Your picker is broken.
I saw a lot of people's replies that we initially attract these types of people in our lives. But how? I just really want to know how we do it?
Sounds like a pattern. Have you considered sick attracts sick?
Allowing him to use your car is enablement. That's a part of your role in all of this. He drives under the influence and is dangerous to others. From a practical stand point, what are you going to do for transportation when he totals your car or it is impounded?
Given you don't seem ready to let go, can you consider no longer allowing him to use your car?
As for you, have you considered getting some professional help to learn how to choose better BFs?