Sadly he will get worse unless he seeks help. All the behaviors you seen now will magnify because addiction is a progressive disease. There is no magic cure, he will have to work as hard as he does to get a fix, to get well.
And of course you are the blame you are there … who else would he blame and you stand between him and his drugs. All enablers do, just as much as they help add more nails into the coffins of the ones they love. Always trying to get them to stop yet helping them to use. It is insanity at it’s finest.
And you really don’t get it at all.
I think it is nice that you told him he can’t use your truck Monday, you don’t think for a moment that he won’t find a way to change your mind. Addicts are relentless when they want it their way and they learn because we teach them and they already know what will trigger us into giving in. And many give in just to shut them up and get a moments peace.
Oh and work is the last place he should be Monday but I can play that one out easy, if he goes to work then he doesn’t have a problem cause he holds a job and all … and if he loses his job guess what you will be the blame or it will be someone else’s fault but never his … one thing addiction blinds the user to if how they are the cause of all their problems. Maybe cause there are so many around willing to take the blame and help validate their excuses.
Remember we teach people how to treat us. Do you find it acceptable to be treated how you are being in the moment. Don’t look at the past look at now, don’t make it drug use, it is him … the drugs have no baring at all, they just excite something within him already, so the drug can not be the blame either. See him as he is now. If he healthy for you to be around? Do you feel safe and secure with him in the house with you?
And what are you going to do for you … to give you the best chance because you have to do something cause he isn’t your problem right now, you are.