I had a poster in my dorm room in college that said "My mother is a travel agent for guilt trips." She never got it, but that's fine with me. I learned a long time ago that confrontation with an A is pointless because you'll never get through to them. They're experts at denial and manipulation. I haven't talked to my mom in over three months now. It's blissfully quiet in my world now, and I'm hopeful that you'll get to experience that soon enough. FWIW, I am on antidepressants, but I'm also Bipolar. You're definitely not mental, though mental health issues aren't totally uncommon among us ACoA.