My A has been abstinate from drinking for 6 months.
Your post mirrors my feelings exactly. "he dosen't want to be "bothered" with me or our relationship." That's exactly how I feel. And it mirrors his behavior in the past, right before he would go MIA on a binge. I don't know if a binge is coming, but I also don't know how long I want to wait to see if his indifference was the alcohol, or if it's just the way he is. I know I want/need/deserve more.