Hi. My daughter's dad and I broke up months ago, but he still lives here (he sleeps on the couch) until he gets a job. I have realized that the less I expect from him the easier my life is because I just assume I must do everything. I don't think it's fair. But it makes my life easier than being angry all the time. I do get angry when he pulls a "i had to spend my meter money on cigarettes" when he reeks of booze and I just want to call him out, like "cigarettes AAAANNNNDDD...????" And it upsets me as I have repeatedly requested that he not drink in the house, which he has apparently taken quite literally to mean, Oh, please, do drink on the porch. :x And then he gets all weird and emotional, like 8 drinks emotional and angry, not violent or anything, just angry and paranoid about everything, so I just go to my room with dd. I'm excited to not live with him but nervous at the same time.
You are brave and awesome. Hugs to you.