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Old 10-01-2012, 09:57 PM
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Kindeyes
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Surely I am not the only Mama out here who has caved when she vowed to STAND FIRM?
Nope you're not the only one. When we know better, we do better. They are pretty good at putting the moves on us. When the thought of caving in enters my mind, I think "is it good for me". If I'm getting any kind of a weird warm fuzzy, I need to examine my motivations. Am I doing it just trying to make my discomfort stop? Do I expect something in return (like gratitude)? Is it taking away a learning opportunity for my son? Am I feeling fear, obligation or guilt (those are bad feelings to base any decent decision on)? Am I hungry, angry, lonely or tired (HALT)?

Don't beat yourself up......

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