If there's one thing I've learned DG it's that it's not my job to save people.
All I, you, or anyone can do is share our experience - the rest is up to the person we're speaking to and (if you believe in God as I do) up to God.
I don't want to talk about specifics about what happened in chat...I don;t think we should here...but I know I ran away from people who tried to help me for years.
I had many reasons....I was sometimes arrogant, sometimes in despair, sometimes immature...always scared...
for a long long time I was simply not ready to do what I needed to do.
Say a prayer if you're the praying kind, & try and get sleep DG - I reckon you did good
You never know - you may have planted a seed today
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