Abandonedluv, sorry to hear you had to go thru all of that. I don't really believe that you can paint all alcoholics with one broad brushstroke tho. Personality types, traits and all of that probably vary as much with alcoholics as they do the general public.
Contrary to popular belief not all alcoholics are selfish, self-centered uncaring people. Many live in a world of fear, anxiety and depression. Some actually believe they need alcohlol to function and can't imagine a life free of mood altering substances. There are also different stages of the disease, it is progressive, some are functional others are not. The only trait I really see as the same in all alcoholics is an addiction to alcohol.