Originally Posted by
Miller05 
like everyone on SR says...it is a personal choice to stay. i dont have it in me....cant give a pass for ******* a 55 year old coke *****. nada. did i mention she is a grandmother?
At some point you find yourself in the situation of compromising your personal code of ethics too many times.i don't know that my AH ever physically cheated with intercourse, and I may never definitively know. What I do know is that he violated my ethical boundaries. He brought in alcohol, drugs, porn, violent video games. Things I didn't want violating the sanctity of our home. It is impossible to build a family life in the midst of chaos. He slowly broke me down piece by piece and I allowed the compromises. He is asking for a second chance but truth be told we are on chance 5 or 6, and I'm not interested anymore.
He stepped across a point of no return with you. That's his fault, not yours. You stick with your boundary and rebuild. I've realized if I compromise my core person, then I lose sight of myself piece by piece. Finding my sense of self again, that is important, not giving up my integrity for another is an important boundary I want to put in