That's a really good question and I wish that you had gotten some positive responses. My husband has just finished the detox program and is in inpatient rehab. There was no stealing, cheating, or DV. But there was a lot of lies, using our $ for drugs and the disrespect that comes with those things. He is a great daddy to all of our kids (my 2 oldest sons are not his) and outside of the lying and using he is really good to me. He is my best friend. I don't know what our future holds. But if he comes out of rehab and wants to be clean, then I'm not going anywhere. I'm sure there will be times when there are relapses or when he struggles a lot, but if he is serious about his recovery and is working hard to better his life...why wld I leave the man I love? The other side of that is if he comes home and is not serious about his recovery and starts using again...I'm out. I've decided what I can live with and my boundaries are clearly drawn.