Miller - It's an individual decision - If you would have asked me 5 years ago what I would have done if my husband, cheated, lied, wasted thousand of $'s ignored his wife and kids,became a zombie, I would have said - I'm gone at cheated. Unfortunately, for me, I thought by staying I was not destroying my kids lives with a divorce. Ultimately, I hit my bottom and realized that by staying, I was actually endangering my kids lives and hurting them. I have a lot of regrets and am working on forgiving myself for not doing the right thing sooner. It brings bile to my mouth when I think of how much I allowed myself to be disrespected. But, I am in a place now that I filed for divorce, I'm done and there is absolutely no doubt. I know I genuinely gave him the chances to find recovery. I guess for me, I had to do it this way so I can more forward without hesitation.