I hear what you are saying Seek. I actually said to my AH tonight...."Sorry I wasn't able to listen to you talk about yourself with full attention, but have you even asked me about my day?"This is after I worked, heated up dinner, played with daughter, gave her a bath, got her to bed, and tried to keep my eyes open to do 4 hours of accounting work.
And yes, taking breaks during study to worry about his mental & physical health....I get what you are saying Seek.
You are just pointing out how much energy it takes to deal with the alcoholism factors in our life.