thank you for all your posts!!! what i was looking for were those non-confrontational phrases you learn in program such as, "You may be right" or "That must be hard." I get so angry with myself and feel such rage when he drinks because i hate that he cannot bear to have just one. i know it is a disease, but sometimes that enrages me more. because there's no pill for it! ha ha ha! anyway, i just want to learn to communicate in a language that's respectful of him and myself...even when i'm angry. all your posts and messages have helped. THANK YOU!!!