Owatha-
I caution gentleness when we are having hard feelings toward ourselves, but sometimes we are so used to the hard that we question the good feelings.
Be open to whatever is there, while it is there and the path you are on. The rest will take care of itself.
If the feelings change and become stronger...they will, if not that is okay too.
I got myself into more trouble by being surprised by the emotions then the actual feelings I had.